Ever since we are little, we are told by our parents, our teachers, everyone to try our best. So for the most part we do. I tend to label myself as a bit of an overachiever. I do my homework, I study for my tests and I’m not too modest to say that I get good grades.
But is trying your best, and failing still doing your best? Could you have done better? That question has been rotting in my brain recently. Obviously trying is extremely important, but recently, I’ve been thinking about trying to relax about things a little more. And with that comes less stress and time worrying about little things that are out of your immediate control. So it is okay not to be perfect all the time?
You’re probably wondering why I’m ranting? I have a math test tomorrow. And not just any math test THE quadratics unit math test. The one that is almost guaranteed to drop my average down a solid 5-8%!!!
I’ve known that this test has been approaching for a long time, and I’ve been to every class, I’ve done my homework and I’ve asked questions. I even made a study page and reviewed for 2 hours tonight. But for some reason, I still feel unprepared.
Now, I am absolutely positive that math is not my forte. It has never been. I am definitely more of an english/media/anything but math kinda gal. And I know that I will not be needing high level math in my future career (that, despite the comment is still undecided). So why am I setting these really high expectations for myself? Is it okay to just, try my best and settle for whatever grade I get, because odds are it will be decent? In a perfect world, I would push myself harder and study longer but nothing is perfect.
I went to my mom for math help, but seeing as though she accidentally fell asleep while watching TV, she was not much use. I did get her to wake up for a bit, and I told her that I was just going to do my best, and that I hoped that she would not be upset if I got a bad grade.
You know what she said? She said “I will never be disappointed” (and then promptly fell back asleep). I am very lucky that I have understanding parents, and that my mom is basically my best friend. I could not even fathom the pressure some parents put on their kids, considering the pressure some kids put on themselves.
Sometimes, you need to be able to define your own strengths and weaknesses, and not let that affect who you are. I am not dumb, I am not outgoing, I am not unmotivated. I just have different strengths than others.
Maybe it’s just me, or maybe lot’s of other people feel exactly the same way.
Have any of you ever had to just “let go” of something like a test and relax? I probably have already but it doesn’t feel any easier.
I’d love to hear your advice,